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Ep 67: Building good mental health in our kids

I'm a big believer in the power parents have to positively shape their child's mental health over the course of their life. But, where do you start? In this episode I share some key areas you can focus on to teach your child some important mental health fundamentals. 

Ep 66: How are you really?

Well, my friends, it's time to get WAYYYYYY beyond the answers we give to the supermarket cashier when it comes to "How are you?". When we are asked how we are, we are so conditioned to respond with "Ok" and "Good", no matter how we are really feeling. 
So, in this episode I share with you a few key questions to get you reflecting on how you really are. 
Also, you can download my free 'How are you really' reflection guide at charlottecummings.nz, which is the perfect companion to this episode :) 
This episode is in proud partnership with Natalie, Gala, and the lovely Millo team, in recognition of New Zealand's Mental Health Awareness Week, which begins on 23rd September. Our Millo foam loungers are one of the BEST additions to our house, and a top tool we have for emotion regulation in our family. You can get 20% off anytime with the code 'goingsandcummings'. Check them out: millo.org.nz 

Ep 65: Listener Question - Helping your child transition to school

In this episode, I share some advice on helping your child transition to school, with a particular focus around reducing anxiety. 

Ep 64: Looking after your relationship through the years with young kids

Well, according to you guys, this is going to be a great episode! I know there are people who have been hanging out for this one... 
Parenting is essentially a trauma for a relationship. You are never again the same person you were before children + the demands of parenting are high and ongoing. It's tough! 
Come and join me for this episode, where I share some ideas on how you can look after your relationship through the years with young kids! 
 
 

Ep 63: How to get your spouse to go to therapy

I get asked this question so, so often and I have LOTS of tips to share. It's time to take it away from being a black and white/yes or no question of "Will you come to therapy with me?", and ask way better questions to get you both participating in therapy quick smart! 

Ep 62: Spilling the tea, about me!

This is a bit of a different episode - it's all about me! I share my back story, more about my counselling style, my work as a Private Investigator, my issues - it's all here! haha.. Come join me for a yarn! 

Ep 61: Boundaries Q & A

This is a follow up episode to Episode 60 on boundaries. In this episode, I respond to a range of listener questions on how to apply boundaries in different contexts - with difficult people, fragile people, in a not for profit work setting, with kids, with in laws, when supporting someone else through a difficult time, and as a grandparent. Phew! There is lots in here, and no doubt there will be something relevant to a challenge you face. 

Ep 60: Boundaries

Join me for this episode, all about the important topic of boundaries. I'm a big believer that if you don't have good boundaries, you don't end up living your own life - and, instead, you live the life others construct for you. Boundaries are a really important life skill, yet for many people, the state of their mental health prevents them from even knowing what they want - let alone holding a boundary. I hope you get lots from this episode, and don't forget to check out the following episode (61) where I answer listener questions on boundaries. 

Ep 59: Finding Yourself

I hear this all of the time from people writing to me seeking to engage in counselling... "I just feel I have lost myself, and I've lost my way". 
 
The good news is that you're not a $20 note in last winter's jacket, and there are actually steps you can take to re-discover, re-invent, or re-connect with who you are. 
 
Join me for this episode where I explore how to go about this process. 

Episode 58: How a stylist can help your mental health

Well, this is a bit of a different episode today, as I share a conversation I had with my friend Steph over on her podcast Style for Life. 
 
I met Steph in her role as a stylist when she did my colours in a mall. Since then she's shopped with me, taught me to run, shared so much with me about nutrition and exercise, and now she is an ever-inspiring woman in my world. 
 
EVERYONE needs a Steph. Working with her has been a part of my own journey of learning to love and appreciate myself. 
 
We chat about self-esteem, health, looking after yourself, the vagus nerve, clothes, parenting - pretty much everything. 
 
I hope you enjoy listening in to our chat!